"Never invest in any kind of relationship
with anyone who is not willing to work on themselves just a little every day. A
person who takes no interest in any form of self-improvement, personal
development or spiritual growth will also not be inclined to make much of an
effort building a truly meaningful connection with you."
Anthon St. Maarten
The BPE model, developed by Nir Golan, Educational & Leadership expert, contains definition of the Added Value and an ongoing routine set of expectations.
Definition of Partnership's Added Value:
Each partnership has a "reason why", its added value. The definition of the Added Value has to be very specific in order to be used as a guide line for long term.
The next stage is a long relationship based on set of expectations. There are three different types of expectations according to the BPE model:
Basic
Performance
Excitement
Basic Expectations:
Which partners expect to be present in the relationship. The Basic expectations are the must level qualities, properties, or attributes. These expectations are also known as the dissatisfiers because by themselves they cannot fully satisfy a partner. However, failure to provide these basic expectations will cause dissatisfaction and a failure of the partnership.
Performance Expectations:
Which are not absolutely necessary, but which are known about and increase the partner's enjoyment of the relationship.
These are the qualities, attributes, and characteristics that keep a partnership alive. These next higher level expectations are known as the wants or the satisfiers because they are the ones that partners will specify as though from a list. They can either satisfy or dissatisfy the partner depending on their presence or absence. These expectations can be verbal or non-verbal and therefore need full attention.
Excitement Expectations:
Which partners don't even know they want, but are delighted when they find them. These are features and properties that make a partner a leader in the relationship. The highest level of partner expectations is termed the wow level qualities, properties, or attributes. These expectations are also known as the delighters or exciters because they go well beyond anything the partner might imagine and ask for. Their absence does nothing to hurt a relationship, but their presence improves the likelihood of it. Wows excite partners for future relationship.
"A relationship with only one partner willing to do the work ceases to be a relationship. And as anyone who has been there will tell you - it's pointless to try and dance the tango solo."
Anthon St. Maarten
Anthon St. Maarten
The BPE model, developed by Nir Golan, Educational & Leadership expert, contains definition of the Added Value and an ongoing routine set of expectations.
Definition of Partnership's Added Value:
Each partnership has a "reason why", its added value. The definition of the Added Value has to be very specific in order to be used as a guide line for long term.
The next stage is a long relationship based on set of expectations. There are three different types of expectations according to the BPE model:
Basic
Performance
Excitement
Basic Expectations:
Which partners expect to be present in the relationship. The Basic expectations are the must level qualities, properties, or attributes. These expectations are also known as the dissatisfiers because by themselves they cannot fully satisfy a partner. However, failure to provide these basic expectations will cause dissatisfaction and a failure of the partnership.
Performance Expectations:
Which are not absolutely necessary, but which are known about and increase the partner's enjoyment of the relationship.
These are the qualities, attributes, and characteristics that keep a partnership alive. These next higher level expectations are known as the wants or the satisfiers because they are the ones that partners will specify as though from a list. They can either satisfy or dissatisfy the partner depending on their presence or absence. These expectations can be verbal or non-verbal and therefore need full attention.
Excitement Expectations:
Which partners don't even know they want, but are delighted when they find them. These are features and properties that make a partner a leader in the relationship. The highest level of partner expectations is termed the wow level qualities, properties, or attributes. These expectations are also known as the delighters or exciters because they go well beyond anything the partner might imagine and ask for. Their absence does nothing to hurt a relationship, but their presence improves the likelihood of it. Wows excite partners for future relationship.
"A relationship with only one partner willing to do the work ceases to be a relationship. And as anyone who has been there will tell you - it's pointless to try and dance the tango solo."
Anthon St. Maarten
